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I'm a mama of two based in Portland, Oregon, learning how to become a more mindful parent.

"There’ll be opportunities to redefine masculinity as well as redefining feminism."

"There’ll be opportunities to redefine masculinity as well as redefining feminism."

RYAN AND KRISTINE ON RAISING THEIR DAUGHTER (2) AND SON (4 Mos.)

GRAND RAPIDS, MICHIGAN | USA

Warming up to the word “feminism”

I do think if you ask ten different people to define feminism, you'll probably get ten different answers. I think there's a spectrum, though. I think when the word means equality for women, that has to do with family roles, at work, and roles in governments. You believe men and women are both human and they should have equal rights. Unfortunately feminism has developed because there's some injustices in terms of gender roles.

Initially, I didn't like the word feminism to be honest. Up until a year ago, to me the word was associated with burning bras and then with Trump becoming president and the Women's March, there was a lot more talk about feminism and gender equality. The word is warming up to me or more like I'm warming up to the word. I’m getting a different view of it. I still don’t love the word, because to me gender equality is just like a given. I feel like it should just be a given. That's just how I grew up. My mom and dad were equal, it wasn't really talked about, but I know that isn't the way it is sometimes.

Teaching one another

The fact that we have a boy and a girl, they will have an opportunity to interact with each other and learn from each other so that exposure will be good. There’ll be opportunities to redefine masculinity as well as redefining feminism.

Inviting her into the process

We believe some of the lessons that she'll remember or learn from are sought not taught. We’re not proactively teaching. If she sees that we treat each other equally and that we have equal roles in work and at home and in the church, that's something that she should grow up believing. With most of our teaching, like feminism or who Jesus is, we do it together. If we pray together, she starts praying, we're not teaching her how to pray. We just invite her into the process.

“I try to encourage the kids to feel their feelings... to cultivate an environment where the boys can feel safe to cry or to feel emotions and to be loved.”

“I try to encourage the kids to feel their feelings... to cultivate an environment where the boys can feel safe to cry or to feel emotions and to be loved.”

"The women before me held up the sky and that makes me really proud. It gives me the perspective and aspiration of what I’m capable of."

"The women before me held up the sky and that makes me really proud. It gives me the perspective and aspiration of what I’m capable of."

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