"There’ll be opportunities to redefine masculinity as well as redefining feminism."
RYAN AND KRISTINE ON RAISING THEIR DAUGHTER (2) AND SON (4 Mos.)
GRAND RAPIDS, MICHIGAN | USA
Warming up to the word “feminism”
I do think if you ask ten different people to define feminism, you'll probably get ten different answers. I think there's a spectrum, though. I think when the word means equality for women, that has to do with family roles, at work, and roles in governments. You believe men and women are both human and they should have equal rights. Unfortunately feminism has developed because there's some injustices in terms of gender roles.
Initially, I didn't like the word feminism to be honest. Up until a year ago, to me the word was associated with burning bras and then with Trump becoming president and the Women's March, there was a lot more talk about feminism and gender equality. The word is warming up to me or more like I'm warming up to the word. I’m getting a different view of it. I still don’t love the word, because to me gender equality is just like a given. I feel like it should just be a given. That's just how I grew up. My mom and dad were equal, it wasn't really talked about, but I know that isn't the way it is sometimes.
Teaching one another
The fact that we have a boy and a girl, they will have an opportunity to interact with each other and learn from each other so that exposure will be good. There’ll be opportunities to redefine masculinity as well as redefining feminism.
Inviting her into the process
We believe some of the lessons that she'll remember or learn from are sought not taught. We’re not proactively teaching. If she sees that we treat each other equally and that we have equal roles in work and at home and in the church, that's something that she should grow up believing. With most of our teaching, like feminism or who Jesus is, we do it together. If we pray together, she starts praying, we're not teaching her how to pray. We just invite her into the process.